A love note from me to you, pretty lady.

Do you need a love note? Here you go. I found this lovey quote online this afternoon and decided to turn it into a quick graphic. 

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Sub Tweeting Swag

Years ago, perhaps 5, my friend Lanie began tweeting a certain thing when she had something to say that she could not say. Rather than opt for the vague tweet “You know, people in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones” or whatever, she’d lay this thing down: 

Type, type, type. Delete, delete, delete.

My god, I thought, this woman is a genius. Around that time I was going through several major life changes (divorce, dating, job changes) and had PLENTY to tweet about that I absolutely should not tweet about. I, too, began laying this thing down:

Type, type, type. Delete, delete, delete.

 And I really did do this. I used the message any time I started to type, then back up, then retype, then back up. It was cathartic. It was silly. It was intriguing…someone always asked what it was about. 

Eventually, life got busy. In extreme situations, whether I was strung out with a hectic time or a frustrating situation, I transitioned to:


And so it went.

About a year ago, maybe, my friend Mark tweeted at us TTT,DDDers that we could also call write it like: 


Leave it to the trained architect to math it up for all us twitter nerds. Later in the conversation someone (him? Lanie? Someone else?) mentioned it might make a great t-shirt. 

And now it *is* a t-shirt! There’s this dark grey one with white letters and a green one whose white letters mysteriously became Twitter Blue after a day or so. A sign? Certainly.

They are $20 each and range in size from XS to XXL. For $5 I will put it in a padded envelope or little box and ship it anywhere in the U.S. I have a strong suspicion that this will be our only run of these as my very short attention span is already cooking up a completely different t-shirt design.

Please buy my shirt. I’ve got four hungry children** and a crop in the field.

Here’s where you buy the shirt!!




**I have two children who are well-fed and two house plants who have survived 15 months in my care. 

I love the Internets

There’s a lot of stuff I share on the Internet every day. Here’s a round up of the things I most enjoyed last week by category.


  • Science says lasting relationships come down to—you guessed it—kindness and generosity. This article from The Atlantic talks about the work of  John Gottman, a research psychologist who has spent 4 decades studying couples. He found they fall into two categories: Masters and Disasters. The masters exhibit kindness and generosity like BOSSES. “Kindness (…) glues couples together. Research independent from theirs has shown that kindness (along with emotional stability) is the most important predictor of satisfaction and stability in a marriage. Kindness makes each partner feel cared for, understood, and validated—feel loved. (…) there’s a great deal of evidence showing the more someone receives or witnesses kindness, the more they will be kind themselves, which leads to upward spirals of love and generosity in a relationship. There are two ways to think about kindness. You can think about it as a fixed trait: either you have it or you don’t. Or you could think of kindness as a muscle. In some people, that muscle is naturally stronger than in others, but it can grow stronger in everyone with exercise. Masters tend to think about kindness as a muscle. They know that they have to exercise it to keep it in shape.” 
  • Jim Carey gets it. Then he gives it away. “All that will ever be is happening right here and the decisions that we make in this moment which are either based in love or fear. So many of us choose our path out of fear disguised as practicality.”
  • Why we humble brag about being busy. “This bubble is being enabled by an unholy alliance between three powerful trends: smart phones, social media, and extreme consumerism. The result is not just information overload, but opinion overload. We are more aware than at any time in history of what everyone else is doing and, therefore, what we “should” be doing. In the process, we have been sold a bill of goods: that success means being supermen and superwomen who can get it all done. Of course, we back-door-brag about being busy: it’s code for being successful and important.” This is worth your time to read. I sure hope we all wake up to Exhaustion as a Status Symbol, which is what Brene Brown calls this. The Avett Brothers calls it “ill with want.” I call it normal far too often.
  • Why narcissism is a profoundly misunderstood psychological disorder. I survived a romantic relationship with narcissist several years ago, not that I didn’t bring plenty of baggage to the situation. Identifying his narcissistic personality disorder helped me get things in perspective. Since then I’ve read more about NPD and other psychological pathologies. It is all fascinating. This particular article dives into the connection between narcissism and fear, points out hormonal responses and makes a connection between NPD and psychopathy.



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